"You don't get over, you get through...over is the easy way and it's temporary."
~Demetria Lucas bka Belle Woods author of one of my most favorite blogs ABelleinBrooklyn
That quote came from Belle's formspring when someone asked her for suggestions on how to get over someone. The first part of her answer was for them to take their time and that there was no magic potion to make it go away. Part B of her answer(above) really struck a chord with me because I have struggled with that very thing for quite some time...the length of that time is somewhat embarassing considering I had told myself countless times how I should have been "over" him already as if it was a 24 hour virus or something. Needless to say at this point I'm closer to the light at the end of the tunnel than I've ever been.
I've written about him and my feelings for him before. The feelings were strong. At one point I truly believed that he coul quite possibly become my husband one day. I absolutely love(d) him and was in love with him. I love(d) him so much that I agreed to us just being friends so that he could focus on pursuing his career. He never lied to me (to my knowledge). We share(d) a special bond I had never shared with anyone to this point. Unfortunately, things didn't quite pan out the way that I had hoped. It took a while for my heart to believe what my mind knew, which was quite frustrating. I tried to follow the old saying, "the quickest way to get over somebody is to get a new somebody" (or something like that). That didn't work. I prayed, I cried, I ignored him, I read books, I read blogs, I wrote, I vented, etc. Nothing worked. Sometimes, I even wished that he would do something down right triflin thinking that would help me get over him faster. He didn't! It did get to a point where I could go days without thinking about him so long as I didn't see him or hear from him, but
that wasn't good enough.Then it happened...I can't really pinpoint the exact date and time, but one day I woke up and the stronghold was lifted. Don't get me wrong I didn't magically stop being in love with him, but I did have a major peace in my heart about where I was and that the relationship I had wanted for so long wasn't going to happen. I had no bitterness towards him, although, I did recognize the need for our current friendship to change. I knew that I would have to show him through my actions that I was no longer waiting for him and that revolving door to my heart was now closed. Overall, the lesson I learned was that my inability to move on stemmed from my lack of faith in God and that just like everything else He's got my love life in His hands. I shared a few thoughts about that on my twitter page about a month ago (Follow me @WINLUZorDRAW).
Shoutout to @Tinamarink aka Christina for encouraging me back then to blog about my experience.
I'm not completely out of the woods yet, but I am on my way. I know the kind of love my heart yearns for is in my future.
